Dr. Mary Stefanazzi, an accredited psychotherapist since 1994. Her work is about supporting human beings to flourish.
Every meeting with Mary is a unique opportunity to invest in your own inner personal development. You do not have to be struggling with a particular problem to make an appointment. In encouraging others to flourish Mary will begin with you wherever you are at right now. Do call to learn more.
Since psychotherapy practitioners vary quite considerably in how they understand the service they provide here are a few words about my approach which I hope you will find useful.
When it comes to mental health we hear a lot of talk about 'normality.' The first question I am often asked by a prospective client is 'Am I normal?' In the midst of all the talk about mental health there is little discussion about how normality is determined. 'Normal,' as far as I understand it, is a term which has come to mean what is socially accepted at any given time. For example it is not considered unusual today (2017) to find all passengers on a bus engrossed in their phones. Twenty or thirty years ago this would likely not have been considered at all 'normal.' So we can take it that normal is not a very helpful term to a person who is suffering since what it means has not been critically determined.
The ancients understood suffering as an inevitable part of the human condition. Thus to advertise psychotherapy as a means to end suffering would be contradictory to what is known about the human condition. The challenge in my work is thus to offer realistic support to people who are suffering based on a foundation of reasonable thought about the human condition.
Against that background my approach draws on the wisdom of the founder of Analytical Psychology, Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1961). Jung was interviewed in 1959 for the BBC Face to Face programme by John Freeman who found Jung, although an elderly man at the time, as sharp and clear thinking as ever. It is said to have been a timely encounter because Jung died 18 months later. Click HERE to watch the interview.
In his book The Practice of Psychotherapy, Jung says that,
The principal aim of psychotherapy is not to transport the patient to an impossible state of happiness, but to help them acquire steadfastness and philosophic patience in the face of suffering.
Collected Works of C. G. Jung, Volume 16, 185.
Precisely how this happens in practice is worked out in a collaborative conversation. For that reason it is vital that all your questions, concerns, doubts or fears are heard and considered. Your questions are always welcome. In this regard you may also find the 'Why Choose Mary?' page of interest.
It is reasonable to expect to be given clear parameters of what is realistic from any professional psychotherapist. What can generally be expected of both parties needs to be known in advance to be able to make an informed choice whether to engage in psychotherapy or not.
Having listened carefully to your needs I can give you an overview of what you may reasonably expect. It is natural and reasonable to feel uncomfortable feelings at certain times. People often say they find it useful to learn about the general patterns and pitfalls of the human condition. All too often people think there is something seriously wrong with them when there is not. Awareness is the first step to learning how your mind functions and whether it is helping or hindering you.
Do contact me to discuss further any questions you may have about your particular needs at this time.
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The mystery of what can happen when people gather together fascinated Jung. Jung had this granite stone carved with an inscription in Latin, meaning 'To the Unknown spirit of this place.'
The place is Eranos at Ascona in Switzerland, which was very special to Jung. He held there was a special atmosphere at Eranos where the beautiful location, overlooking Lake Maggiore, supported a deeper understanding of Truth. Photograph was taken during a research visit to Eranos in May 2016.